Wednesday, March 25, 2009

A Birth Mother's Point of View

This blog post portraying a birth mother's point of view is definitely a must-read, if you haven't seen it already. It's heartfelt, sincere, and very raw. Interestingly, many of this birth mother's points about her feelings of loss and anxiety related to relinquishing her baby correspond with what I perceive as the adoptee's feelings of loss and anxiety about having been relinquished--they certainly reflect mine.

Ironic that these groups of people (birth mothers and adoptees) who have been forcefully separated and hidden from each other via closed adoption, shame, etc., for so many years have such similar feelings about their experiences, despite our society's mandates for us to forget about one another and go on living our lives as if the other never existed.

3 comments:

Nicole Breitman said...

Where is the link? I'd like to follow it!

Andrea said...

Hi, Nicole:
Click on the green text that says "birth mother's point of view" (not the title, though); it's a hyperlink.
let me know what you think!

Nicole Breitman said...

Its a moving piece. Some of the responses were as moving to me. The writer's enduring pain really hit home. I usually stay far away from the politics of abortion and the whole right to life argument, as I feel it is so extreme; I usually don't even want to deal with it. But looking at it from this unique angle is really interesting and something I've never done. There are so many gaps in the adoption experience; spaces that need to be filled in with questions, information and support for all members involved...