tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1133819134801574505.post1750796524645456753..comments2023-10-06T06:16:18.099-04:00Comments on The Sought-After: A Word About the Not-So-Wonderful World of Infertility, as it Relates to being AdoptedAndreahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03887189203551681403noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1133819134801574505.post-60157568528797153832008-10-22T04:28:00.000-04:002008-10-22T04:28:00.000-04:00Hi former-neighborAs an adoptee myself, I can't th...Hi former-neighbor<BR/><BR/>As an adoptee myself, I can't think of a finer thing you could do to honor and 'pay forward' the great gift your adoptive parents gave you than to share the love that made you the fine person you are today with someone else currently in the same boat you were rescued from.<BR/><BR/>I've met your son and he's an awesome kid - second only to my own, of course. You've procreated. You've established a link with the only blood kin you'll ever know (till your son has kids of his own) - I believe your determination to have a four-member family is karma telling you that somebody out there needs you. Someone is waiting for you to save his or her life as yours was saved.<BR/><BR/>I hope, through adoption or the old-fashioned method, you find the person you're looking for. My gut tells me he or she is already out there, just waiting for you and A. to come be their Mommy and Daddy.<BR/><BR/>Where would you and I have been without <I>our</I> adoptive parents, or as we call them, Mom and Dad?Fang Bastardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07172685144854047884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1133819134801574505.post-51073241557404241242008-10-20T17:14:00.000-04:002008-10-20T17:14:00.000-04:00Andrea, I can't get over how immediate and vulnera...Andrea, I can't get over how immediate and vulnerable your sharing is.. . I feel fortunate to be invited in. I don't have direct experience with infertility or adoption, I want to say that firstmost. However, I have to say that on an absolutely fundamental level, I believe that we are ALL broken chain links. And every moment is an effort to connect these broken parts. My four biological children, I transgress and wound every single day. And yet this effort, this lurching attempt at relating and loving them, is my supreme privilege and joy.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16266066401806487056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1133819134801574505.post-87819136497256154192008-10-19T19:50:00.000-04:002008-10-19T19:50:00.000-04:00What a great blog! I'm so glad you started it. Off...What a great blog! I'm so glad you started it. Off to put up a link now.<BR/><BR/>(And I see you know Dawn, so you're in good shape. :) )<BR/><BR/>Incidentally: if you've ever read Julia at Here Be Hippogriffs, she dealt with similar issues. Her husband is adopted, and they dealt with infertility.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02551872881971981258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1133819134801574505.post-39947462576734281782008-10-18T11:04:00.000-04:002008-10-18T11:04:00.000-04:00I can certainly appreciate that need to create str...I can certainly appreciate that need to create strong ties to your kids if your own link feels broken -- this makes absolute sense to me and I like the way you articulated it here. I'm also intrigued by adoptees who adopt and birth parents who adopt; it's unusual enough that I'm interested in the stories of those folks who choose to do it.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164833674841541784noreply@blogger.com